At eight years old, I read my encyclopedia before bed and some of my favorite television shows were Dateline, Primetime Live, and 20/20. Apparently, I was a precocious child who loved learning about things like how light waves work, as well as shocking tactics predators are using to abduct children in your neighborhood. My sick taste in television also introduced me to … Continue reading Fondue Conversion Therapy and How I Learned to Eat
On the surface, I get the appeal of highlighting moments that signal a stark separation between recent ends and new beginnings. Enduring long enough to realize those separating moments can make them feel like monumental achievements. For instance, a dissertation defense. A cross-country move. A new job. A new relationship. Another calendar year. (According to some metrics, … Continue reading Seeds Already There
I'm part of a lost generation, so despite all of the other things that I'd rather write about I've decided to sit down and write about being a fucking Millennial. I'm ashamed already. Please, don't rub it in. Why write this now? Maybe it's because I really AM that self-absorbed (but isn't that some kind … Continue reading Why We Suck So Much: Millennial Malaise and Our Bad Relationships
A few weeks ago I met a stranger. We talked about pornography for a long while, and then I asked him, "Would you like to a make a video together?" Two days later, we did. It was great. Since our conversation, I just can't get porn off of my mind. I mean, I even turned … Continue reading If Hamburgers Were Porn: Feminism and Doing It Better
I'm currently writing my first book under the working title, Thinking the Unknown, which exposes how an epistemology of ignorance shapes what we think we know about sex, gender, and sexuality. The concept of an epistemology of ignorance is obviously very important to my philosophy (I mean, I did one of my most popular videos on it … Continue reading Thinking the Unknown
Evidently, there's a fine line between "making it" and "utter failure," and, right now, I'm managing to stand squarely on it. There's less than a week before this chapter of my life ends and I move on from graduate school and happily settle back into one of my favorite places doing different and unsettlingly-unspecified-at-this-point things. … Continue reading I May Be a Failure, But At Least I’m Not Bitter
You may be one of the 3 million people who have seen this video by now. As Minnesota becomes the twelfth state to legalize marriage equality (the sixth state in six months), it seems like our cultural consciousness is finally starting to shift with respect to how we think about sexuality. Given the resurgent popularity … Continue reading “When Did You Choose To Be Straight?” About Two Years Ago.