Seeds Already There

On the surface, I get the appeal of highlighting moments that signal a stark separation between recent ends and new beginnings. Enduring long enough to realize those separating moments can make them feel like monumental achievements. For instance, a dissertation defense. A cross-country move. A new job. A new relationship. Another calendar year. (According to some metrics, … Continue reading Seeds Already There

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Honest Confidence and the Lies of the Best

It's been another busy month with lots of challenges, changes, great opportunities, and much room for growth. I don't know if it's the product of the slow, subtle crafting of my own thinking or a cruel joke by a menacing world (...I think it's more of the former), but one of my greatest challenges and opportunities … Continue reading Honest Confidence and the Lies of the Best

Death and Social Media: Facebook Friends For Life

It's been said too many times that social media is changing our relationships and degrading our ability to genuinely connect with others, but all those "superficial" interactions take on a unique significance when social media meets death. In a totally bizarre way, social media enables us to be friends with dead people. And for that, … Continue reading Death and Social Media: Facebook Friends For Life

Why We Suck So Much: Millennial Malaise and Our Bad Relationships

I'm part of a lost generation, so despite all of the other things that I'd rather write about I've decided to sit down and write about being a fucking Millennial. I'm ashamed already. Please, don't rub it in. Why write this now? Maybe it's because I really AM that self-absorbed (but isn't that some kind … Continue reading Why We Suck So Much: Millennial Malaise and Our Bad Relationships

The Problem Is That (You Think) You Think Too Much

Hardly anyone has heard of philosophical counseling, but now that I've started my own philosophical counseling and consulting business, I've had loads of opportunities to describe the "how's" and "why's" of this form of philosophical practice. I start by emphasizing that, at the heart of the matter, philosophical counseling entails thinking about our lives and … Continue reading The Problem Is That (You Think) You Think Too Much

Fight or Flight? Don’t Go With That Flow

In the past few years of blogging I've written plenty about break ups, the upheaval and uncertainty that can follow in their wake, and I've optimistically chimed over and over again, "Things change. Something will happen." Those phrases are meant to settle some fears and angst about the flux of life, the unexpected, perhaps even … Continue reading Fight or Flight? Don’t Go With That Flow

I May Be a Failure, But At Least I’m Not Bitter

Evidently, there's a fine line between "making it" and "utter failure," and, right now, I'm managing to stand squarely on it. There's less than a week before this chapter of my life ends and I move on from graduate school and happily settle back into one of my favorite places doing different and unsettlingly-unspecified-at-this-point things. … Continue reading I May Be a Failure, But At Least I’m Not Bitter