Some people say, "Love is a verb." Others say, "Love is a choice." When they say these things, I suspect that few people mean to suggest, "Love is a facade." But maybe it is at times. Maybe it can be. Why do so many people fall in and out of love, sometimes even with the … Continue reading How to (Fake That You’re in) Love
Unrequited love is a common theme of tortured souls, those who wish for nothing more than to be loved back by their beloved. In many stories, this type of love is a kind of tragedy for we often assume that love is (and perhaps should be) realized only in particular ways. But I've recently been … Continue reading To Love Others (Without Them Knowing It)
This post feels hard to start. I can't let on to too many details (which is already part of the problem) but I hope to write. I need to write. So let me try. For the past couple of years I've been thinking and writing about many of the same topics: Academic philosophy. Graduate school. … Continue reading To Love Strong and Do Right: Or, When I Nearly Peed My Pants
today has been a strange day. i woke up with anticipatory dreams, verging on psychic predictions--that a phone charger would be left behind on a loved one's travel, that a conversation with a long-term supporter would address the lessening need for our time together because life and things just continue to get better and better. … Continue reading for a friend, far away
In light of National Coming Out Day, I discuss arguments for gaining legal protection for LGBT people which target subjective moral judgments, such as the belief that homosexuality is wrong. Rather than arguing in apologetic terms for mere acceptance and tolerance, I suggest that recognizing the role of choice in sexuality does not inhibit making … Continue reading Think for a Change (17): It’s Okay to Be Gay!
Philosophical possibilities aside (because I know that there are many passages I could bring in here), I've been wanting to mention one thing that has really been on my mind over the past couple of weeks. There's a really good chance that you are part of it. Seriously. Because what I've been paying attention to … Continue reading Thinking of You
I'm thinking of quitting smoking...no small task. But instead of quitting out of some sense of guilt or shame, like because smoking is bad or because others negatively judge those who do it, I want to apply some ideas that I have come across through podcasts and philosophy to make this a pleasurable process. That … Continue reading The Pleasure of Not Smoking